Ask him yourself, Mom

My teen ager son, Akbar, is almost 14. He is at the second grade of junior high school (Indonesian: SMP). He likes the organizational activity (now he is the deputy of chief of OSIS SMP Negeri 5 Bandung). He likes music, he is a melody guitar player in his band (named Riverside). Everyone said he has good looking. And when I meet the parents of his friends, they said that Akbar is very popular among the girls. At home he is a relatively nice and good tempered boy. Sometimes he becomes very lazy and very annoying when he starts to disturb his little brother. That’s Akbar. His daddy sometimes wants to check the messages in his handphone, but has failed, to open the message was needed a password that only Akbar knows. ‘Everyone said he has a girl friend. Who is she? As his mother you should investigate, teen ager shouldn’t be in love seriously…’ I smiled, I believe it wont’ be. I know his activity, his friends, his girl friends, but I don’t know who is his girl friend really. I asked Lia who is Akbar girl friend now. She said’ “You don’t know Mom?’ . I said, ‘ I know Akbar’s girl friends but I don’t know his really girl friend now. He ever told you, didn’t he? Tell me honey…’ Lia smiled mysteriously, ‘Ask him yourself, Mom….’. Another day I asked Salman, Akbar’s little brother. He said, ‘You don’t know his girl friend, Mom?’ . ‘I don’t, tell me dear…’ . As his sister he said (after silent for a while), ‘Ask him yourself, Mom..’. I asked Salman, ‘You don’t know her, do you?’. ‘I know her Mom, Mas Akbar told me before. Ask him, I’m sure he will tell you..’ Well, that are my children. As Mom, I got lesson today. It’s good to ask him myself. Investigate via another person without asking him first just show that I don’t believe to him. I do believe to Akbar. I will ask who is his girl friend now. I will tell him not to make the love story as the very important thing of his life right now. I will tell him someday monkey love is good to be remembered but it is not the only one thing that can fill the teen ager life.